The infamous roommate: Her Super Ego...centrism

One of the most disturbing qualities of my ex-roommate was her inability to think for someone else. She always claimed that her ways were the best ways, and didn't understand why she was not functioning well with others. She criticized me for not having as much Korean friends as SHE would have expected. I really didn't understand why she had to stick her nose into everything I do and lecture me about it, but I doubted that it was a normal thing to do for a roommate.

One of the most hurtful and unfair things she said to me was how she pointed out the fact that I never hang out with other Koreans and she thinks that I'm trying to be an "American." Her almost exact quote was "I can see that you are trying to be an American. You do realize that it's never going to happen right? You don't even have an American citizenship." I really couldn't understand that why she had to think that all Koreans HAVE to only be friends with bunch of Koreans, and seriously, what's wrong with the people from other places? I just had to assume that she was a racist person in a way.


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I once over heard her and her friend talking (in my room so I wasn't eavesdropping), and I heard my roommate criticizing Indians. Her friend mentioned that she was with her Indian friends while telling Ms. Northkorea a story, and my ex-roommate received the information with a mocking voice saying "Ha! You were with Indians? Why? they smell and they have weird accents and sound like adadada..." I'm sorry, but that was the most ironic and ridiculous thing I've ever heard. As Ms. Northkorea has grown up most her life in Korea, she does not have the perfect accent. At all. And her tone just made me realize how limited her thinking was about people who are different from herself.